Couples Therapy
Relationships change over time. The people you were when you first met are not necessarily the people you are today—and that’s not a bad thing. Couples often find themselves struggling when they get stuck in old patterns while their individual needs, priorities, and relationship continue to evolve.
My approach to couples therapy is grounded in the Couples Developmental Model, which looks at relationships through the lens of growth and development. Rather than viewing conflict as simply a problem to eliminate, we explore what the conflict may be telling us about where each partner is in their individual and relational development.
I work with couples to better understand the patterns they have developed together, identify the needs and expectations underneath those patterns, and create new ways of responding to one another. This can include working through communication difficulties, emotional disconnection, recurring conflict, intimacy concerns, changes in roles and responsibilities, parenting challenges, or major transitions in the relationship.
I don’t believe that couples therapy is about determining who is right or wrong—or choosing sides. Both people deserve to be heard, understood, and challenged to look honestly at their own contribution to the relationship.My role is to help create a space where that can happen safely and productively.
Couples therapy is not about creating a perfect relationship. It’s about helping two people develop a relationship that can continue to grow as they do.
What Can We Work On?
Couples seek therapy for many different reasons, including:
- Communication and recurring arguments
- Emotional disconnection or feeling like roommates
- Trust and rebuilding after difficult experiences
- Intimacy and sexual relationship concerns
- Parenting and family-related challenges
- Differences in expectations, priorities, or values
- Life transitions and changes in the relationship
- ADHD-related relationship challenges
- Premarital or committed relationship counseling
- Reconnecting after years of feeling disconnected
